Entries for August, 2006
August 7th, 2006
One-eyed POSTED AT 10:28 AM in This funny thing called life Reading: The Two Towers Feeling: content 4 Had their say
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August 9th, 2006
All shapes and sizes POSTED AT 09:22 AM in This funny thing called life I feel like writing something but I don't know what to write about. It is usually the other way round for me. I would have something to say, or a thought that may have occurred, but I wouldn't feel like writing or have the time to write. So here I am staring at my computer screen wondering about what to write… There have a number of things I had thought I should write about. Some of them I still remember but I do not feel like writing about them. Alright. Here is what I am going to write about. Love. Relationships. I am afraid to make promises that I would love someone for all my life or that I would be committed the friendship no matter what. I have made such promises in the past. I will not deny that. The reason I will not make such promises is because I have usually broken them. Situations change. Things around you change. Your life changes. You change. Nothing is constant. My life has been a series of changes. Everyone's life is like that I am sure. Living in hostel only underscores that. I have had a number of friends walk in and out of my life. I have lost touch with some. With others, I have renewed contact. Only with a very few am I still in touch. There are certain lessons I have learnt along the way which, i though i will share in my blog. With those that you are still I touch with, it requires effort and desire from both the persons. Even if one is not interested, the relationship fades away. Relationships require working at. Some friendships may happen just like that. Some may grow over a period of knowing each other. Whatever the case, for the relationship to work, it needs to be worked at. There are some friends with whom you can pick up from where you left. I don't know how it happens but it happens. But then again, it doesn't happen with everyone. With certain people, you would have seen them day in and day out but you wouldn't have really been friends with them. Acquaintances perhaps. At the most both of you may have been part of the same clique. But when you do renew friendship much later you will be amazed at what good friends you guys are becoming. Such friendships don't fail to amaze me. It is almost a feeling of 'how the hell did we miss eachother then?!' A relationship of the past doesn’t become false merely because the promise wasn't kept. It was true at that time. Things changed. Relationship has also changed. So don't doubt the truth of what was. Don't expect your friendship to remain the same. It has to change. It has to evolve. That is the sign of life. Hopefully it would be a positive change. If it is not, it is ok. Both of you have invested in each other's lives and it would definitely be part of who you are. Oftentimes friendship is a response. How was your invitation to friendship received? Was it accepted or was it rejected? Depending on what you perceive, you respond. And depending on your response, the other responds and thus it grows. This cycle of response doesn't stop after you have become good friends. It goes on. And it is that, I believe, strengthens the relationship. Hence, I think it is key how you respond to those who send out those unspoken invitations. There may be times when genuinely want to respond well but are not able to. At such times one needs to take the effort to let the other person know that it wasn't that person but the situation. And then there are these other people who we may not want to be friends with. In such events, I think it is crucial to be gentle in the way one says 'no'. Whatever it may be - be it a yes or a no - should be communicated. The worst thing is not letting a person know where they stand. Sending confusing signals. That is horrible. I have been there. I have felt it… Reading: The Two Towers Listening to: Some really nice music on my comp Feeling: Thoughtful |
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